10 Signs Ego Hinders Your Success
A big ego thinks the problem is someone else.
Ten signs ego hinders your success
Ego:
- Over-values itself and under-values the team.
- Feels nagging frustration with others but satisfaction with itself.
- Believes others need development but seeks affirmation for itself.
- Sees the weaknesses of others as gross offenses but personal weaknesses are incidental inconveniences.
- Needs MORE gratitude, MORE appreciation, MORE recognition, or MORE praise. You know you’re egotistical when you always feel under-appreciated.
- Views luck as the reason others succeed and hard work as the cause of personal success.
- Enjoys offering unrequested improvements to the ideas and work of others. Ego always knows better.
- Refuses to adapt but expects others to adjust. Ego doesn’t play well with others unless it can make all the rules.
- Demands immediate gratification and expects others to wait. Ego is impatient.
- Acts with impatience toward others.
Unhappy.
The thing that makes egotistical leaders unhappy is that others aren’t dedicated to make them happy.
Collaborate.
Ego does its own thing, but in a world where everyone does their own thing, symphony is cacophony.
Cure:
- Know there is no permanent cure for arrogance. Thinking otherwise is arrogant.
- Get a humility partner. The development of humility ALWAYS requires others. The more you pull away, the greater the threat of ego-inspired blindness.
- Explore disconfirming input while silencing the need for self-justification or blame. Humility says, “Tell me more.” Sentences that begin with, “That’s because,” generally end with self-justification.
- Be open with failures and frailties. Show up to tell a failure story. Yes, look for opportunities to tell people how you failed and what you learned.
- Brag about the people on your team to others. Better yet, let people hear you bragging to others about them.
To live for something bigger than yourself is NOT to simply live for self.
What symptoms of egotistical leadership do you see?
What cures might you offer for big-ego leaders?
Q: What symptoms of egotistical leadership do you see?
A: Disloyalty at all levels…at your face and in your absence.
Thanks aquathin. Another way to say that might be…. loyalty to self before all others.
Leading through blame
#2 … substitute the word humanity for humility ..
The development of humanity requires others …
The greater the distance, the more the denial.
It’s almost like the story of the emperor with no clothes. Also, others see this ego in action and really aren’t sure what to do.
Can you please clarify your statement number 6. above? The second half of the sentence is …hard work as the cause of personal success. Are you saying that ego does not view the team or working toward something bigger as a cause for personal success? I think that is what you are trying to say. In other words, an individual with a huge ego only believes that individual, personal hard work is a cause of or measure of personal success and does not recognize that there is something larger which is more important than the individual.
THanks!
Great. Thank you for this.