15 Reasons Positive Leaders Seem Negative
Negative leaders look in the mirror and see someone who cares.
There are “good” reasons for negativity.
You’re negative because…
- Some babies come out smiling and some come like Eeyore. It’s not an excuse, but you were born with a disposition.
- Improving other people’s work makes you feel smart, powerful, and superior.
- Nothing’s good enough when your belly is growling.
- Experience sees potential problems that novices don’t imagine. (There’s a reason we don’t do it that way.)
- You finish everything you start so you nitpick plans that don’t make sense. A person who loves to check things off their list won’t put something on their list that might not get checked off.
- Helplessness makes you pessimistic. When you feel you can’t change things, you lose heart.
- Constant nagging, nitpicking, and fault-finding are depressing.
- Incompetence drives you crazy. If they can’t do their job, why are they around?
- You make mountains out of mole hills. When everything is important, you’re bound for negativity.
- Resentment – hanging on to offenses – drains you.
- Power gives you permission to be grumpy.
- You need sleep. Overwork, stress, and fatigue drag you toward the abyss.
- Disappointed expectation makes you irritable.
- Stupid people…*#!^#!!
- Disappointment with yourself spills on others.
Successful leaders manage the impact of their presence.
10 ways to move toward positive leadership:
- Receive gratitude with gratitude.
- Leverage negativity in very small doses.
- Explore options without sounding like a know-it-all.
- Decide what you really want and choose actions that get you there. If you want your team to fail, complain constantly and nitpick their work.
- Schedule down-time.
- Schedule gratitude walk-abouts.
- Show respect for other people’s ideas.
- Eat healthy and take a walk.
- Let people learn from failure.
- Get a positivity-partner who can kick you in the pants when you’re negative.
Bonus: Ask a positive person how they do it?
What makes positive people go negative?
How might negative leaders move toward positivity?