Thieves of Thankfulness – 3 Traits That Inhibit Gratitude

I searched, “What’s good about ingratitude,” and the article at the top of the page was titled, “14 Health Benefits of Practicing Gratitude According to Science.”

I searched, “Benefits of ingratitude,” and the first article was, “The BENEFITS of Gratitude.”

Google must think I need help.

Benefits of ingratitude:

  1. Anxiety.
  2. Resentment.
  3. Sadness.
  4. Distrust of others.
  5. Isolation.
  6. Weak relationships.
  7. Poor health.

The only thing good about ingratitude is thankfully you’ll die sooner than grateful people. You’ll be out of your misery. Positive emotion can help you live 10% to 15% longer.

Image of R.I.P.

The only thing good about ingratitude is thankfully you'll die sooner than grateful people.

Thieves of thankfulness – 3 Traits that Inhibit Gratitude:

Philip Watkins’s research indicates narcissism, cynicism, and envy/materialism are thieves of thankfulness. Narcissism is most deadly.

I decided to see if I was materialistic, cynical, and/or narcissistic. The results were disappointing.

You might be a narcissist if you:

  1. Have an excessive sense of grandeur. I want to change my last name to ‘Grande’. Danny Grande’ has a real ring to it. Don’t you think?
  2. Feel you’re worthy of special treatment. I don’t really feel like I deserve special treatment, but I seem to enjoy getting on airplanes ahead of others.
  3. Often monopolize conversations. (The trouble with this one is you don’t notice it.)
  4. Have shallow relationships. People are important only as they bring benefit.
  5. Think others are always out to get something from you.
  6. Love perfectionism.
  7. Struggle to deal with criticism.
  8. Frequently demean others.
  9. Blame others for your behavior.
  10. Can’t compromise.

Why gratitude is difficult:

If you don’t need others, but others need you, gratitude is a strain.

Gratitude acknowledges benefits received.

If you get bent out of shape when others don’t respond quickly to your emails or give you special treatment when you show up, gratitude is a burr under your saddle.

Entitlement and gratitude don’t play together well.

A little humility might up your gratitude game.

Why is gratitude difficult?

Part 2: Thieves of Thankfulness – Why Cynics Struggle with Gratitude