Category Archive: Personal Growth

The Most Important Thing You Manage isn’t Projects or People

Someone or something is controlling your attention. Often it’s not you. Maybe it’s an email alert or a buzzing cell phone. Distracted leaders live inconsequential lives. The most important thing you manage is your… Continue reading

How to Accept a Challenge that Buckles Your Knees

Nudges normally produce acceptable growth. But some growth-opportunities require leaps. Knee buckling opportunities: One day a door of opportunity will open for you. You sweat thinking about it. Your knees buckle. Your boss… Continue reading

How to Nudge People Toward Dragons

Opportunity often knocks before you’re ready. A brief dialog from the movie, The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring, illustrates the power of “nudges”.   Frodo Baggins: “Before you (Gandalf)… Continue reading

How to Throw Someone In the Deep End of the Pool

Coddling is degrading because it tells people they’re incompetent. Pampering devalues strength. Over-protection is rejection.   Stretch yourself if you want to grow. It’s not a stretch assignment if it doesn’t keep you… Continue reading

Mary Poppins Was Wrong About a Spoonful of Sugar

Mary Poppins was wrong. It takes a truck-load of sugar to sweeten a spoonful of sour. Sour grows and intensifies apart from intervention. Apart from intervention, sour consumes sweetness and moves to its next… Continue reading

7 Responses that Win With Evil Manipulators

Manipulators create and exploit vulnerabilities for personal advantage. One manipulator bragged how she could cut people without them knowing it. 3 marks of manipulators: #1. Want you to feel obliged or inadequate. There’s… Continue reading