You’re under appreciated and overworked.
Bitterness follows ingratitude, the most self-destructive quality of all.
10 reasons you’re ungrateful:
#1. Expectation ends gratitude. Results are expected. When you deliver them, someone gives you another goal. There’s no appreciation for doing things you were supposed to do.
#2. Pressure ends gratitude. There’s no time for appreciation when everyone’s barely keeping their head above water.
#3. Problems end gratitude. We can’t stop to say thanks when the world’s coming to an end.
#4. Greed ends gratitude. You aren’t thankful because you want more. Who can appreciate having less than they want?
#5. Inequity ends gratitude. You work harder than others. Why should you thank them for doing less than you?
#6. Complaining ends gratitude. It’s hard to see the good while talking about the bad.
#7. False humility ends gratitude. You belittle compliments. “I didn’t do that much.”
#8. Entitlement ends gratitude. People who work are more thankful than those who don’t.
#9. Negative history ends gratitude. Bad experiences with a person cause you to reject their thankfulness and make you ungrateful for them.
#10. Not receiving gratitude ends gratitude. “If they aren’t thankful, I won’t be thankful.”
4 projects:
#1. Ask teammates, “What could I do to show I appreciate you, your results, efforts, and dedication. Do those things.
#2. Call gratitude meetings. Invite the leadership team to a “thank-you card meeting.” The sole purpose of the meeting is to write thank-you notes to teammates and colleagues.
#3. Drive-by gratitude. Stop into an office, say thank-you for something, then walk out.
#4. Appreciate character, not just results.
- You’re enthusiasm is encouraging.
- I can count on you. Thanks for being reliable.
- I respect your dedication, even if results fell short.
Don’t call a big meeting to complain about lack of gratitude. Just go show gratitude in small ways.
Question:
Would it be terrible if everyone said you’re the most thankful leader they know?
What prevents leaders from showing gratitude?
How might you show more gratitude today?