I just got home from a conversation about maturity with some really smart college students. This post is inspired by our conversation.
10 expressions of immaturity:
- Don’t realize or don’t care that their behaviors have negative consequences for teammates.
- Won’t make commitments. Commitment requires responsibility, something immaturity can’t tolderate.
- Repeat ineffective behaviors, while hoping to achieve better results.
- Say things like, “Deal with it,” and, “I don’t care what you think.”
- Break promises. Immaturity and unreliability are bedfellows.
- Always know the right thing to do.
- Reject wise counsel.
- Focus on serving themselves, even if others suffer.
- Create drama. Everything’s a crisis to the immature.
- Repeat the past because they don’t learn from it.
5 things immature leaders end up saying:
- I didn’t mean to hurt you.
- I didn’t realize this would impact your area.
- Get over it.
- I’m right.
- What’s wrong with you?
- Maintain perspective. Solve drama, rather than create turmoil. Don’t turn molehills into mountains.
- Press through setbacks and obstacles. Maturity is the result of endurance.
- Continue striving for excellence, even after achieving excellence.
- Seek input and listen to suggestions. Mature leaders ask, “What do you think.” Babies need their own way.
- Admit failures without making excuses.
- Appreciate and honor mentors, coaches, and advisers.
- Let go past failures and offenses. Mature leaders don’t circle black-holes. Never allow the past to define your future, especially if it’s dark.
- Rise to service quickly and freely.
- Commit to learning, unlearning, and relearning.
- Aggressively face forward.
Immature leaders circle the past. Mature leaders always press into the future.
What are the fundamental marks of mature leadership?
Which of the 10 marks of mature leadership seem most important to you?