You limit the potential of your team if you can’t ask them to take on big challenges.
Ask people to do a lot if you expect them to achieve a lot. Ask people to make important contributions if you expect them to feel important.
Ask for a lot. Give a lot.
Success requires both challenge and support. An ‘ask’ – apart from support – creates resentment and disengagement. Support – without a big ask – invites slacking self-indulgence.
5 ways to make a big ask:
- Ask people to do what they love to do.
- Ask people to leverage their strength and talent.
- Ask people to do things that stretch their capacity and expand their potential.
- Ask people to do things that align with their values.
- Ask people how they would like to contribute.
Bonus: Ask people to build their own future.
10 ways to overcome reluctance to make the big ask:
- Be a person who contributes to others. Pour into others so others can pour out for others.
- Work with people who are eager to contribute.
- Connect with people before you make an ask. Don’t use connecting as a manipulation to soften people up. Connect with people to learn about their passions and aspirations.
- Don’t beat around the bush. Explain the need and make the ask.
- Give people an opportunity to respond to your request. Don’t answer for them.
- Ask others, “Who might be interested in doing this project?”
- Make small asks before making big.
- Make it OK for people to say no, as long as they’re already contributing to the cause. When people can’t say, “No,” an ask is really a tell.
- Accept people who aren’t as committed to optional opportunities as you are.
- Notice the effort, energy, talent, and discipline it takes to fulfill your asks, not simply the end result.
How might leaders/managers ask teams or individuals to take on big challenges or opportunities?
