No one knows when or how, but one of our media projectors is broken. I was fascinated how Doers, Dreamers, and Feelers responded.
Mr. Feeler wondered how someone could break something and not report it. He felt a measure of insult and indignation. (Relationships.)
Mr. Doer wondered what happened. Was it dropped? Did someone mishandle it? (Analysis and action.)
Mr. Dreamer wondered how we might replace it. (Future.)
*All three thought about all three things. I report their first response.
Dreamers and drama:
I’m the Dreamer in the story.
Looking to the past feels like drama to me. When Mr. Doer asked about what happened, I wondered, “Who freakin’ cares?” When Mr Feeler wondered about who might have done it, I thought, “What’s the point?”
I feel like others are being dramatic when they think about the past. But it’s not drama. It’s a difference in perspective.
Doers think about process. Perhaps something was done that could be prevented in the future?
Feelers think about relationships. Perhaps we need to develop a more transparent culture?
To me, it’s all drama. Just replace the damn projector and move on.
Doers and Feelers widen a Dreamers perspective. I probably seemed disconnected and dis-concerned. Actually my view is narrow and short-sighted. There’s value in exploring what happened and who might have been involved. It just doesn’t feel worth it to me.
Drama for Dreamers:
You feel drama when you try to solve the concerns of others.
In reality, they should address the issues that concern them. Yes, I need to be involved and helpful. But I don’t need to solve their concerns. They do, if it’s worth it to them.
Dealing with drama:
Sometimes drama is about you, not others.
- Listen to understand.
- Ask, “What are your choices?”
- Ask, “What do you want?”
- Don’t assume responsibility for others.
What makes you feel drama?
How do you deal with drama?
For a fuller explanation of Doer, Dreamer, Feeler read: Cracking the Doer-Dreamer-Feeler Code
For more on office drama, read, “Stop Workplace Drama,” by Marlene Chism.