Experience shows that most leaders are lousy question askers. Maybe it’s lack of practice?
Not long ago, I met a leader who asked interesting questions. He was interesting TO me because he was interested IN me. But he didn’t pry.
Be interested in others, if you hope to be interesting to others.
Genuine curiosity feels like love and respect.
A good question brings people to life.
Second question rule:
Try the two-question rule for a day. “Ask at least two questions before making one statement.”
The second question invites thought and adds vitality.
- What’s the toughest part of your job? What would be true for you/others if you were great at that?
- What are you doing at work when you feel you’re most alive? What does that energy say about you?
- If you challenged yourself to achieve more in only one area, what area would you focus on? What makes that important to you?
- What compliments do you most frequently receive? What might you do differently today to maximize the talent others see in you?
- What are you doing when time flies? How do those activities add value to others?
- What are you doing for others that you’d like to brag about? How might you engage in brag-worthy behaviors?
- What’s the most interesting part of your day? How does that part of your day bring value to your team?
- If you challenged yourself to improve as a leader, what one area would you focus on? What does getting better in that area do for you? For others?
- How do you want your team to feel when you’re around? What will you do today to create opportunity for them to feel that way?
Tip: Display an approving heart or curiosity feels like judgement.
Which questions most interest and/or energize you?
What question could you ask today that might energize others?