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The Most Powerful Words You Hear

People may notice your strengths, but until your inner voice agrees, you reject affirmations. Your inner voice is more powerful than external voices.

Words aren’t magic, but they are rudders. Words set the direction of your attitudes, actions, relationships, and leadership.

Negative self-talk:

It doesn’t take a genius to know negative self-talk is concrete on your feet.

I have a loud inner critic. It wouldn’t surprise me if you did too. You might be surprised at how frequently you beat yourself down. But what if you have weaknesses?

It’s responsible self-talk to own mistakes and acknowledge weaknesses. Responsibility isn’t negativity. But self-condemnation and negative rumination make you weak and hold you back.

Aspirational self-talk:

During a conversation, Brian Tracy said, “Never say anything about yourself that you do not sincerely want to be true.” I immediately thought of negative statements I’ve heard people repeatedly say to defeat or excuse themselves. (And I’ve said too.)

During our conversation, Brian also said, “Talk to yourself about the way you want to be, not the way you are.” Negative self-rumination doesn’t inspire.

Encourage yourself the way you encourage colleagues or friends.

Brian Tracy in his own words:

Motivational self-talk:

You might tell yourself, “I WILL stop procrastinating.” But saying, “I will,” assumes resistance.

The person who says, “I will address that awkward issue,” doesn’t want to address it. However, inquisitive self-talk may work better.

It’s motivational to ask, “Will I?”

Research shows that asking, “Will I?” is more motivational than saying, “I will.” Perhaps the reason goes to your inner conversation.  

The question, “Will I stop procrastinating?” calls for an answer. If you answer, “Yes,” your brain immediately starts to figure out how to make it happen.

Words without actions are gobbledygook. But all useful action begins with words.

What self-talk best reflects who you aspire to become as a leader?

How might you leverage the power of self-talk?

Added resource:


Eat that Frog for Students,” by Brian Tracy

Eat that Frog,” by Brian Tracy

The Stories We Tell Ourselves | Leadership Freak

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