Warren Buffett said, “The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say ‘no’ to almost everything.” But there is a danger.
Saying no is a dead-end when you don’t have a BIG YES.
People who fight-against end up empty unless they have something to fight for. Don’t-want is energizing but dissatisfying unless you have a compelling do-want.
Know what you want before fighting what you don’t want.
“The art of leadership is saying no, not yes. It’s very easy to say yes.” Tony Blair
I’m tired of people saying, “I need to learn to say no.” What’s your BIG YES? One BIG YES enables a thousand nos.
You can’t say no because you’re saying yes to the wrong things.
Things you don’t want motivate change, but they’re never enough. What’s your BIG YES? Leaders worth following might begin with fighting-against, but they always focus on fighting-for.
Don’t-want leaders fight against.
It’s easier to fight what you don’t want than to pursue what you want.
The next time an angry person comes to you with a complaint, ask them, “What do you want?” They’ll tell you what they don’t want.
A don’t-want life is energizing, but dissatisfying. It’s exciting to fight against. Enemies energize, but don’t-want is a dead-end if you don’t have a BIG YES.
Fighting-against is fueled by:
- Feeling superior.
- Tearing down.
Leaders who fight-against are always disturbed, offended, or angry about something.
Fighting-for is fueled by:
- Seeking to serve.
Think clearly because a BIG YES calls for commitment.
What’s your BIG YES?
If you’re curious:
Saying Yes is Harder than Saying No
The Ability to Say NO is the Power to do What Matters
Say Yes + Other Tips for Accelerating Your Career