The trouble with fear is sometimes it helps and sometimes it stabs you in the back. Helpful fear tells you to obey the speed limit because the cops are out on holidays. But I’m thinking about the backstabbing kind.
Bad fear tells you to stop, avoid, or run away. Fear tells you not to go to the doctor when you find a lump in your breast. Fear says, “You probably won’t get that promotion so don’t apply.” Backstabbing fear says, “Don’t try.”
The voice that says you can’t:
Fear plays on vulnerability. It reminds you, “You’re small,” when you feel insecure. It brings up past embarrassments, “You don’t want that again.” It points to obstacles to mock what you really want.
Fear strangles hope and murders potential.
The cure for fear:
You don’t cure fear by thinking about it. Thinking about fear turns you into a fear factory. The more you think about it the more afraid you become.
The cure for fear is action. You must do what you are afraid to do. It’s simple, but not easy.
Act boldly in small ways. One fearful thought spins off another and another. But action leads to action. One small act of boldness enables the next. Do something embarrassingly small.
What’s the bravest thing you can do? (Small is perfect.)
How to act boldly in small ways:
- Make a list of everything you’re afraid to do. Do something fear tells you not to do.
- Keep your eye on the prize. Draw symbolic pictures of what you really want.
- Seek advice from a kind brave person.
- Hang a safety net. Line up a person to call if the worst happens. Fear loves isolation. Defeat fear with relationship.
The cure for fear is doing what you’re afraid to do. I told you it was simple.
What’s the cure for fear from where you sit?