The things you notice reflect who you are.
Competitive people notice rivals. Highly agreeable people see opportunities to collaborate.
What you see impacts who you become. First you give attention. Then you choose to respond. Habitual responses shape character.
The things you notice reflect who you are and shape who you become.
#1. Priorities impact attention.
When you’re shopping for a pickup truck the world spawns pickups. When you’re not reaching the numbers you think about goals.
#2. Problems impact attention.
Life is painted with a toothache.
When you fail you get cautious.
#3. Joy impacts attention.
When you build furniture, you examine joints and finishes. People who carve ducks see wooden ducks.
Notice the things you notice:
Attention determines direction.
Self-proclaimed motivational quote hater John Green said, “What you do with your attention is in the end what you do with your life.”
#1. Keep a thought journal.
Set a timer to go off at random times of the day. Record what’s on your mind when it sounds.
- Problems or solutions.
- Obstacles or opportunities.
- Weakness or strength.
#2. Get a grip on your responses.
“Between stimulus and response there is space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Rollo May
- What solution might improve this nagging concern?
- What fulfills you about working with your team?
- What opportunities lie within this obstacle?
- What do you respect about this frustrating person?
- How might I have this tough conversation quickly?
When you notice frustration, redirect your attention to gratitude. Who are you thankful to? What are you thankful for?
You can’t control what pops into your head, but you can control your attention.
“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts…” Marcus Aurelius
How can leaders get a grip on their thinking?