Rituals establish expectations. When someone says, “Good morning,” you respond in kind. When someone extends their hand, you extend yours.
You exceed expectations by disrupting patterns.
The 7 Joys of Ritual
- Predictability – confidence about what works.
- Stability – behaviors become acts of memory.
- Energy – performance without decision fatigue.
- Freedom – space for creativity without judgment.
- Trust – consistency signals reliability.
- Speed – shared habits accelerate execution.
- Belonging – shared behaviors create connection.
Rituals reduce thinking about the routine so you can focus on what matters. But to exceed expectations, violate rituals.
7 Disruptions
#1. Greetings
Turn courtesy into connection.
After a polite greeting, ask, “What’s one thing you’re looking forward to today?”
Repetition is the death of attention.
#2. Meetings
Provide an energy jolt.
Before the agenda ask, “What’s one thing you admire about the person to your left?”
#3. Management
Shift the focus of evaluation.
In high-trust environments, managers ask, “Where am I making your job harder than it needs to be?”
#4. One-on-One
Use positive surprise.
Complete this sentence, “The reason we hired you is…” Use character traits. Do this for short and long-term employees.
#5. Time
Give teams a time bonus. Tell them to turn off Slack and email for 60 minutes.
Bonus: Begin a meeting by saying, “Let’s cut this meeting in half.”
#6. Recognition
Show people they matter.
End the day by showing up in someone’s office unexpectedly. Tell them what they’re doing right. Make a video call for distributed team members.
#7. Mistakes
Eliminate blame.
Say, “Here’s what I got wrong this week…” If that’s too vulnerable, say, “I could have done better when I…”
Exceed expectations by disrupting comfortable habits. The unexpected wakes sleepwalkers.
Don’t simply manage the routine. Interrupt it.
Which ritual can you disrupt to exceed expectations?
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