If everyone likes you, you’ve lost yourself.
Meaningful decisions disappoint someone. Agendas collide. Values conflict.
When Being Liked is Your Goal
- Decisions get postponed.
- Truth becomes optional.
- Popularity replaces purpose.
- Approval is your compass.
Don’t be difficult just to prove your independence.
You Might be Disliked When You Ask
- Is it true?
- What are your responsibilities?
- What makes this necessary?
- How does it serve the mission?
- How is this consistent with our values?
- How will it help people grow?
The courage to lead includes the courage to be disliked.
- Say no to protect priorities.
- Confront poor performance.
- Challenge weak ideas.
- Promote the best person.
The call of integrity is more important than being liked.
Integrity asks, “What’s right?” People-pleasing asks, “Will they approve?”
How is needing to be liked holding you back?
4 Simple Ways to Quiet a Need to Be Liked Leadership Freak
For more, read The Courage to be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga.
