Lies are told because they’re easier than the truth.
Lies are told to help or hurt. Leaders tell lies to protect those who can’t handle the truth or manipulate those who know too much.
The first lie I told at work was self-protective, most are. I told my boss I’d completed a project but I hadn’t.
The most dangerous lies are the ones we tell ourselves.
You can always tell when you touch the lies people believe about themselves. They deny the obvious and defend the ridiculous. It reminds me of the time one of our children denied crumbling the crackers they were standing in.
10 lies leaders tell themselves:
- People love it when I tweak their work.
- I assess myself accurately.
- I know how I’m perceived.
- Hiding weaknesses works.
- I don’t have a problem with arrogance.
- I’m a great listener.
- Sharing feelings makes me look weak.
- Telling enables. If they don’t get it the first time, say it louder and longer next time. Truth is, “Just do it,” only works in commercials.
- People who flatter me like me. Truth is they hate you.
- I’m over my last outburst means they are too.
I’m gathering material for a book on the lies leaders believe. I value your suggestions, stories, research, and ideas.
What’s the most common lie leaders tell themselves?
What’s the worst lie leaders tell themselves?
Some of this material was first published on “The Top Ten Lies Leaders Believe.”