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Self-Consciousness: Solving the Hidden Hinderance to Enjoyment and Performance

The more energy you expend worrying about yourself, the less energy you have to make a difference in the world.

Self-consciousness drains energy, enjoyment, and effectiveness.

Self-consciousness is your inner voice telling you that people don’t like you, you’re not good enough, or you’re going to screw up.

Self-aware or self-conscious:

Self-awareness is healthy and useful. Self-consciousness is harmful and limiting. The difference is judgement.

Self-awareness notices and responds without condemnation. Self-consciousness is criticism.

Freedom from self-consciousness:

Self-consciousness is mental focus.

Gently shift your attention to something bigger than yourself.

#1. Curiosity.

Curiosity about others is one way to shift from focusing on yourself to serving others.

#2. Focus.

Imagine tasks and responsibilities are screaming children. Let your attention go to the most important child.

Focus on the most important task at hand.

Your inner critic quiets a little when you direct your focus to an important task that’s outside yourself.

#3. Self-awareness.

Notice self-consciousness, but don’t beat yourself down when you do. Say, “Ah, I’m being self-conscious. Where do I want to shift my focus?”

#4. Engage.

Engagement is essential for fulfillment. Self-conscious leaders never enjoy leading because self-consciousness is disengagement.

Engagement and self-consciousness don’t coexist. As self-consciousness goes up, engagement goes down. How can you DO something meaningful? Why is it meaningful?

Self-forgetfulness is part of making a difference in the world.

How does self-consciousness hold back leaders?

How might people overcome self-consciousness?

Making the Most of Dissatisfaction

Learned Optimism

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