Category Archive: self reflection

The First Step Toward Self-Knowledge is Realizing You Don’t Have It

You think you know yourself, but you don’t. You never have self-knowledge; you gain it gradually, sometimes painfully. You throw punches in the air until you gain self-knowledge. Pretending you don’t sabotage yourself… Continue reading

Don’t Release the Beast Between Your Ears: Focus Your Thoughts Instead

When the focus of your thoughts is you, the beast between your ears is choking you out. How many happy self-centered people do you know? Healthy selfishness: Our tendency to be selfish is… Continue reading

Things that Ruin Leaders

Losing yourself and finding yourself ruins leaders. Most of us are still finding ourselves. We live to please our parents, teachers, bosses, lovers, and friends. It’s healthy to please others but devastating to… Continue reading

How to Lean into the Curve – Lessons two Horses Taught Me

I don’t remember wanting a horse, but one day a white gelding showed up for me to try out. Like some people I know, he loved going fast. Once he got up to… Continue reading

5 Symptoms of Self-Deception That Trap Unsuspecting Leaders

“The ingenuity of self-deception is inexhaustible.” Hannah More The belief that you never lie to yourself means you’re trapped by self-deception. Dangers of self-deception: #1. Self-deception limits potential. Growth depends on self-awareness. Self-deception… Continue reading

7 Top Strategies that Break the Grip of Self-Inflicted Anxiety

Healthy anxiety rises to face challenge, opportunity, and threat. That tension in your gut means you care. But self-inflected anxiety causes leaders to… Struggle with decision-making. Flip flop after making decisions. View others… Continue reading