I heard a former Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff say something shocking.
“The question I wish people would have asked me is, ‘How do you feel?’”
On another occasion I heard a CIO ask his CEO, “How do you feel about that?”
Learn to ask the unasked question.
“Do what makes you happy” is bad advice.
“Life is not about you. It’s about what you do for others.” Tom Rath
The saying, “Life is too short to be unhappy” overlooks the value of meaningful discomfort.
Don’t do what makes you happy. Do what makes a difference.
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“Go ahead, gossip about your a**hole boss. And make it nasty.” Bob Sutton
Silence isn’t always healthy, but not all gossip is the same.
The benefits of gossip aren’t found in attacking bad leaders. They’re found in helping teams survive them.
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Working on others is pure joy. After all, they need so much help.
Self-deception takes root when fixing others is your mission.
Influence requires connection, but arrogance builds a wall between people.
Self-deceived leaders focus on changing others.
The purpose of reflecting on past performance is improvement.
During a Q&A with leaders from a global organization, someone asked, “What is your contribution to the leadership community?”
I wish I could erase the answer I gave. It wasn’t wrong, but it didn’t reflect my best self.
I’m learning to navigate screw ups with curiosity.
Coaches open channels for conversation because talking is learning.
You learn by talking unless you’re defending yourself.
Thinking generates ideas. Speaking tests them.
What seems crazy in thought may lead to brilliance.
Learn how to become a person people talk to.
