How to Judge Others

You can’t do difficult things fast. If you want to go fast, do something easy. The need for speed requires repetition, simplicity, and ease. Fast for you – slow for others: Arrogance looks… Continue reading

How to Find the Power to Step into Anxiety

Confidence isn’t the absence of anxiety. Confidence is the ability to step into anxiety and see what good might result. Where does confidence to face anxiety come from? Anxiety: You’re anxious when you… Continue reading

7 Rules for Giving Feedback to the Boss and Surviving to Tell About It

Few things in organizational life are more dangerous than speaking truth to power. But isolated leaders become arrogant, indulgent, and authoritarian. Incompetent leaders count on reluctance to maintain their position and power. As… Continue reading

Surgery Without Anesthesia

“My husband says a conversation with Dan is like surgery without anesthesia.” (During a birthday party for a long-time coaching client.) People don’t tell leaders the truth. They imagine what you want to… Continue reading

Partly Cloudy or Partly Sunny – How to Energize Others

You see yourself as sunny. Others think you’re cloudy. The way you occur to others and the way you perceive yourself are two different things. When you look at the sky: According to… Continue reading

Creating a Moment of Enlightenment that Energizes and Liberates

Some people just don’t get it. You’re trying to help someone see the light, but nothing changes. Enlightenment happens when we see ourselves in a new light – when we rethink beliefs and… Continue reading