Category Archive: Solutions

High Stress to High Value: Handling Hot Potatoes

Others handle day-to-day challenges. But the hot potato lands in your hands. Passing the buck in a high stress situation means you’ve reached your peak. But an aspiration to advance requires resolve to… Continue reading

How to Solve Problems Quickly – But 69% of Relationship Problems are Unsolvable

Some problems should be managed, not solved. Broken computers can be fixed but many relationship ‘problems’ are unsolvable. “Dr. John Gottman’s research proves that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable.” 6… Continue reading

Why We Keep Fixing the Same Problem: Lessons from the Icemaker

I don’t turn on the lights when I get a drink in the night. But occasionally, while standing in front of the fridge, I hear the freezer grinding. A frozen clinker is clogging… Continue reading

Don’t Pretend Things Smell Good when they Stink – Instead Shift Focus

Relentless problems feel like driving around with garbage in the backseat. You wonder if the journey’s worth it. Don’t pretend things smell good when they stink. Dig into problems, but don’t set up… Continue reading

My Black Friend Surprised Me with the Truth

I was shocked when a black friend told me she wasn’t welcomed in some stores in our town. This was years ago. I still don’t understand the realities of racism. I’ve never feared… Continue reading

How to End the Frustration of Recurring Problems

Frustrated leaders complain about having the same conversation. “We’ve talked about this problem over and over.” Repetition creates the path of least resistance like rivers eventually wear channels in stone. Pattern reflection: Tell… Continue reading