Leniency insults competence. Coddling promotes weakness.
Mature compassion expects people to rise to their potential.
Protecting people from struggle holds them back.
Tough leadership strengthens people. Overprotection shrinks them.
Compassion Paradox: Don’t remove challenge. Provide support.
Here’s how…
Glory looks like the corner office. Big titles. Public praise. Fat bank accounts.
Loud glory is thin.
It fades fast. It thrives on applause. It makes you insecure, guarded, and manipulative.
Go ahead, seek real glory. Here’s how…
My granddaughter likes strawberry glazed donuts from Dunkin’. I was disappointed she played with her phone under the table.
I asked curiously, “What are you playing?” She said it was a make-up game.
I said, “Could you show me how you do that?” I leaned in and learned how to choose and mix colors.
Relational Lessons for Leaders
Don’t choose between results and relationships. Pressure produces compliance. Relationships multiply results.
Fear stand aloof. Courage cares.
Thin relationships yield disappointing results. Who brings their best? Someone who feels disregarded. Or someone who believes the boss cares.
When you don’t care about people, the team conforms but doesn’t commit.
5 Steps to Relentless Results
My rethinking drove one member of my team nuts. I thought it was the pursuit of excellence. Now I know it’s dangerous.
Stinking rethinking is paralysis.
3 Symptoms of Rethinking
5 Ways to Overcome Rethinking
Excellence is always pursuit, not perfection.
The danger of average ideas is they work.
“The chief object of education is not to learn things but to unlearn things.” G.K. Chesterton
Old dogs don’t learn when they can’t unlearn.
Average ideas are safe. It’s scary to embrace new ways of thinking.
We desire change but refuse to let go.
