Tag Archive: Complaints

When “But” Makes you a Sphincter-Leader

Sphincter-leaders unwittingly throw cold water on enthusiasm. A happy employee catches you in the hall. “Project ‘A’ is going well,” they report. It’s obvious they feel good. You’re a sphincter-leader when you say,… Continue reading

5 Ways to Make Suggestions that Get Heard

Suggestions are another way of saying do it my way. The person making suggestions is telling you how they would do it, if they were doing it. Unappreciated: The worst suggestions come after… Continue reading

Ten Ways to Complain Successfully

Complainers, within organizations, are swamps of despair that drag down and demotivate. They feel good pointing out bad. Lazy bums point fingers and pull down. Building up is courageous, hard work. I’m complaining about complainers.… Continue reading

One Question for All Complainers and Critics

Get out of leadership if criticism and complaints keep you up at night. You’ll die from lack of sleep. The toughest criticism to handle is directed at a team mate or colleague, not… Continue reading

Can Complainers Become Leaders

Are complainers potential leaders? Listen closely to their complaints; learn from their techniques. Seeing problems is the beginning of leadership; circling problems ends leadership. Some see problems and complain; leaders see problems and seek solutions.… Continue reading

Facing the Fires of Disagreement, Improvement, and Destructive Criticism

Destructive critics claim the moral high ground but their message is simple, do what I want. They pretend they want what’s best for others while they pursue what’s best for them. Constructive critics… Continue reading