Tough conversations increase misery when done poorly. Minimize misery by increasing mastery.
Feedback is future-shaping, not fault-finding.
Reject the practice of beginning with a positive, slipping in the negative, and ending with a positive. The feedback sandwich is full of baloney.
Growth-goals give tough conversations meaning.
Dear Dan, I am struggling at the moment with one team member. It feels like I do so much for her and it’s never enough. I provided so much positive feedback and when… Continue reading
I know reality TV is more about TV than reality, but sometimes I cry when I watch American Idol. It’s a show where undiscovered singers audition in front of celebrities from the music… Continue reading
Others handle day-to-day challenges. But the hot potato lands in your hands. Passing the buck in a high stress situation means you’ve reached your peak. But an aspiration to advance requires resolve to… Continue reading
***** When someone asks how they did. I realize I haven’t done well at giving feedback. I’ve been passive not active. I’ve never heard high-performers say, “I get too much feedback.” They crave… Continue reading
