Tag Archive: negativity

The Gift of Negativity: What We Gain By Faultfinding, Nitpicking, and Naysaying

Painful experiences teach you to protect yourself. The tools of self-protection are faultfinding, nitpicking, naysaying, and quibbling. Experience gives birth to protective negativity. The birth of negativity: “If a cat sits on a… Continue reading

Would you like to Change Direction? How Attention Determines Direction

You can’t control negative thoughts that pop into your head. You can’t stop thinking about problems, past offenses, failures, or disappointments by trying not to think about them. Tell yourself to stop thinking… Continue reading

Why Leaders Don’t Think Straight

Ruminating on what’s wrong exaggerates the importance of wrong. “Nothing is as important as you think it is, while you’re thinking about it.” Daniel Kahneman Unmanaged thinking distorts reality. In a world filled… Continue reading

10 Ways to Deal with Dark Gorillas

Pushing toward positive environments, while others pull down, discourages and frustrates leaders. What’s the use? To make matters worse, one negative does more damage than one positive does good. It hangs on longer,… Continue reading