How to Eliminate Self-Defeating Negativity
Sadness is easy. Happiness is about patterns. You don’t choose self-defeating negativity; it finds you.
This post explains how to use future-facing emotions to eliminate self-defeating negativity.
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Do This to Multiply Positive Impact
Measure the impact of your leadership by the energy you ignite in others.
Skillful leaders multiply energy. Incompetent leaders exhaust people.
How is people’s energy after spending time with you?
Refuel or Die
Fatigue isn’t overwork; it’s failure to refuel.
You go dry when you pour out more than you pour in. You can’t flourish on empty.
Life management is energy management.
Depletion is inevitable apart from intervention.
Energy flows out naturally; it’s restored intentionally. Create a refueling schedule.
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12 Questions Leaders Must Answer
Say what people need to hear before you say what you need to say. Answer emotion before dealing with issues. You can’t strengthen relationships, for example, while people are red in the face.… Continue reading
Transforming Anxiety into Engagement
I sent a note to several leaders, “People are often nervous when the boss shows up. How do you put people at ease?”
The desire to please the boss causes anxiety.
People may pretend they aren’t nervous. But authority makes people scamper on the inside, even when working side-by-side.
The Leadership Imperative Every Leader Must Understand but Many Don’t
Understanding people is the #1 leadership imperative.
There are four ways to understand people. Use the lens of aspirations, motivations, potential, and shortcomings. (AMPS)
Learning to understand people transforms your leadership.
Understanding a person AMPS their enthusiasm.
Here’s how…