Category Archive: Backstabbers

Seven Tips to Avoid Being Controlled by Manipulators

Leaders who repeatedly complain about the same issue want affirmation, not resolution. Every suggestion you offer to a manipulator is inadequate. Never take up the sword for someone who’s standing on the sideline.… Continue reading

10 Ways to Deal with Two-Faced Backstabbers

Most people want to do good, but a few enjoy doing bad. If you’ve been thrown under the bus, you know what I mean. Skillful backstabbers feign friendship, but they live on the… Continue reading

7 Leader-Leeches Who Drain Everyone

Leeches have suckers at both ends.  Britannica says there are 650 species of leeches. 7 Leader-Leeches: #1. Busy leader-leeches Always in a hurry. (Related to the dreaded squirrel-leech.) Complete low-priority items and delay… Continue reading

How Curiosity Leads You Astray and What to do When it Does

Not all questions express genuine curiosity. #1. Curiosity as resistance: Perfectly intelligent people feign ignorance as an act of subversive resistance. “When I don’t want to do something, I ask my boss lots… Continue reading

When Servant-Leaders Choose to Advantage Others – Even if it Hurts

Putting the team first sounds great until advantaging others disadvantages you. The choice between personal advantage and organizational advantage speaks to the heart of servant leadership. “Win-win” is challenging when YOU win later… Continue reading

Solution Saturday: Dealing with Someone who Second Guesses Everything I do

Dear Dan, Over a year ago I took a new position. We have been enjoying great success with record results. Recently the person I replaced took a job that I have to work… Continue reading