Category Archive: Doer Dreamer Feeler

How to Solve Problems Quickly – But 69% of Relationship Problems are Unsolvable

Some problems should be managed, not solved. Broken computers can be fixed but many relationship ‘problems’ are unsolvable. “Dr. John Gottman’s research proves that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable.” 6… Continue reading

7 Ways to Maximize Talented Naysayers

It offends me when “good” ideas are resisted and rejected. Anyone who explains what won’t work before considering how it might work is a resistant, naysaying, uncommitted footdragger. But what if the opposite… Continue reading

How to Navigate Predictable Tension Between Doers and Dreamers

I heard a tense exchange between a Dreamer* and a Doer*. They’re both committed to a new business venture. But you could feel them trying not to express frustration.   Buckle up: The… Continue reading

How Curiosity Leads You Astray and What to do When it Does

Not all questions express genuine curiosity. #1. Curiosity as resistance: Perfectly intelligent people feign ignorance as an act of subversive resistance. “When I don’t want to do something, I ask my boss lots… Continue reading

How One Question Sparks Engagement

People aren’t engaged because the questions they hear are dull. Easy questions: If you’re on my team, you’re committed to constant improvement. Meetings always include, “What can we do better next time?” I… Continue reading

How to Cuddle Up with “No” and Win With Doom and Gloomers

Dreamers swim in an ocean filled with doom and gloomers who love pointing out danger. Dreamers start with “Yes”. Everyone else seems like a kill-joy. Dreamers see resistance when others don’t fall in… Continue reading