Category Archive: Gratitude

Exclude the “But”

Ask some leaders to describe the last time they said, “Thank you,” and you’ll hear crickets or excuses. “They know I appreciate their work.” “I don’t want people to feel they’ve arrived.” “I… Continue reading

Dear Dan: Can You Say More About the Ungrateful List

Dear Dan, Can you say more about the “I’m ungrateful list” – what might be on it and how to use it? I want to know more! Irene (I used the term “Ungrateful… Continue reading

How to Find Your Grateful Mind

3 dangers of ingratitude: #1. Missed opportunity. Ungratefulness doesn’t create a bright future. Ingratitude worries about the past. A leader that’s focused on the past misses today’s opportunity. Turn to the future: What… Continue reading

How to Practice Ethical Buttering Up

Butter is the reason we eat popcorn. Broccoli is intolerable without butter. In our house we put butter on peanut butter sandwiches.  Everything’s better with butter. (Except watermelon.) Buttering up: Buttering up is… Continue reading

How Responding to Compliments Changes People

Overreacting to a compliment is self-absorbed arrogance. Some people gush and say, “Oh it’s nothing,” while explaining at the same time how amazing they are. Then there are the verbose self-deprecating denials at… Continue reading

Dealing with Destructive Leadership

Wise leaders give and receive correction. Incompetent leaders tear down and poison relationships. Correction cp. criticism: Correction builds up. Criticism tears down. Correction looks to the future. Criticism camps in the past. Correction… Continue reading