Category Archive: Mistakes

Stop Punching Yourself in the Face: 13 Self-Defeating Behaviors to Avoid

It’s not good to knock-out yourself. Self-defeat is inevitable until you acknowledge you’re punching yourself in the face. 13 Self-Defeating Behaviors: #1. People pleasing that motivates to stress-out over opinions and approval. #2.… Continue reading

Responsible Mistake-Making: You Suck Before You Shine

Lying isn’t a responsible mistake but missing a deadline might be. Catastrophic mistakes spring from character flaws and irresponsibility. It’s a disaster when you lie or cheat. But skill-development REQUIRES responsible mistake-making. Responsible… Continue reading

When You Mean Well, But Put Your Foot in Your Mouth

Dunkin’ Donuts is a comfort to me when I travel. When I see a Dunkin’, I think everything is going to be OK. It’s not that I eat donuts. I eat a bagel… Continue reading

The 7 Seductions of Leadership

Position, status, and success don’t magically make you superior to others. Know-it-all leaders become less than they could be. The 7 seductions of leadership: Knowing ‘about’ is the same as knowing ‘how’. Position… Continue reading

A Premortem: Reverse Positive Thinking for Success

Do premortems. A postmortem is too late. Gary Klein introduced the idea of premortems. A premortem is reverse positive thinking. Instead of imagining success, imagine failure. What might go wrong: A year from now,… Continue reading

How to Avoid Distraction and Focus on Real Issues

Mary* approached, after a recent presentation and said, “I wanted to hear more about dealing with your inner critic.” She could have said: You should talk more about managing your inner critic. Why… Continue reading