Paying attention to everything will drive you nuts.
A Life Flight pilot told me he succeeds by ignoring the patients in the back.
The secret to doing stuff that matters is ignoring stuff that doesn’t.
10 ways to become a pro at ignoring stuff.
Don’t collaborate on everything. Everyone shouldn’t make every decision. Everyone doesn’t have to agree on every decision.
Collaboration backfires when it dilutes responsibility.
Lack of accountability means collaboration stagnation.
“Seek first to understand, then to be understood,” — Stephen R. Covey
“As a matter of fact, have you never noticed that most conversations are simply monologues delivered in the presence of a witness?” Margaret Millar
Before selling your ideas, try to defend theirs.
10 ways to create vibrant conversations.
Leaders speak to influence.
Leaders often fall into the “forgettable communications scourge.” Bill McGowan
Don’t bother speaking if you’re forgettable.
Bored people aren’t paying attention.
Listeners expect to hear something they don’t expect.
Influential words are clear, focused, and authenticity.
Momma said, “Don’t interrupt.” Let people finish. Pause. Make space.
Master the habit of letting people finish before you speak.
And then break the rules. Great conversations break the rules.
Some of the rules the experts suggest get in the way of great conversations.
No-win situations feel like running on a hamster wheel. Running faster multiplies frustration.
Three things never go away in leadership: competing priorities, limited resources, and increasing expectations.
It doesn’t matter how fast you run. You must run faster tomorrow. You have to lay off people and still deliver results, for example.
You have choices.
