Leading feels like bullfighting. You don’t control the bull. You control the cape.
Don’t ignore the bull. Respond to it.
Focus energy on responses. For example, you can’t control people. Control how you respond to them.
You can’t control interruptions. Determine how long they last.
How to control the cape…
Control is NOT an illusion.
Choose power over passivity.
Don’t surrender because some things are beyond you. You are more than a spectator. Participate.
Here’s a complete list of things you control.
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