Feelings deserve attention, not control.
Choose the good life even when it feels bad.
Asking for forgiveness feels uncomfortable. Discipline restricts choices. Courage is acting while feeling uncertain.
Don’t confuse discomfort with harm. It may be advantage.
Notice your feelings but live on purpose. Here’s how…
I heard a former Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff say something shocking.
“The question I wish people would have asked me is, ‘How do you feel?’”
On another occasion I heard a CIO ask his CEO, “How do you feel about that?”
Learn to ask the unasked question.
A leader who lives by impulse is like a dog riding the monkey. Appetite, pride, or emotional impulse yank them in every direction. Impulse in charge creates piles of rubble.
Don’t react, lead.
Skillful leaders rise above impulse. They cultivate control.
Freedom isn’t giving in; it’s self-control.
Here’s how…
Fear rules in heartless organizations.
Hiding your heart creates distance.
Leadership is influence. Influence requires connection. Heart is the fiber of connection.
Success without heart is failure in disguise.
How to unlock the heart of leadership…
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Happiness all the time is an oppressive fantasy.
Sometimes it’s better to clam up than to say “cheer up.” Sadness has legitimate reasons.
When happiness is your goal, painful emotions feel like failure.
Every leader experiences dark emotions. Listen closely to the wisdom of your dark friend.
Spontaneous impulses feel natural, but they often sabotage leadership.
You interrupt, defend, or avoid without thinking, and the damage builds up. This post explores five spontaneous impulses that dilute your influence.
Lead with intention, not impulse. Small shifts now prevent big regrets later.
