Tag Archive: learned helplessness

Action Before Ability

Take action before you’re competent. You act without ability when you learn to hit a baseball, for example.

The less you do, the less you’re able to do.

When effort drops, tolerance for effort fades.

The more you do, the more you can do.

You learn to lead by leading.

Here’s how…

5 Dangers of Harmful Help

Sincerity can mislead. Good intentions can cause lasting damage. It’s not kind to do another person’s job.

You think you’re being generous. Supportive. Helpful. Harmful help weakens instead of strengthening.

The goal of help is equipping.

Here are five dangers of harmful help and seven questions to avoid it.

3 Signs You’re Offering Destructive Support

Leaders are learning about emotional well-being at work. Support is an essential aspect of leading today.

There is a danger, however. Some support is destructive. Today, I’m offering you an opportunity to reflect on your support efforts.

The goal of support is enabling. It’s helpful to spot the signs of destructive support.

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7 Rules for Overhelpful Leaders

Don’t hand the ball to a person who habitually drops it. Turbulent days have enough frustrations of their own. Don’t enable people to frustrate you. First reflection: Examine yourself before you complain about… Continue reading

6 Questions Smart Leaders Ask Themselves When Giving Ownership

#1. What is my attitude about letting go of things? Leaders who are reluctant to give ownership always end up doing other people’s work. People are slow to take ownership when you are… Continue reading

Have you Fallen into the Destructive Practice of Offering Harmful Help

Harmful help looks like… Not doing your own job because you’re doing other people’s jobs. Bottlenecking results. Burnout. Resentment toward people who should be helping themselves and others. Disappointment because you helped someone,… Continue reading