Ten Things that don’t Matter Much – One that Does

Leaders who neglect what matters always fall short.

respect eliminates the need for position and title

10 things that don’t matter much:

  1. Sitting at your desk.
  2. Past success.
  3. All the good reasons things can’t be done.
  4. Answering email as it comes in.
  5. Getting your way.
  6. Outdoing others.
  7. Pretending you have it all together.
  8. Excuses.
  9. Good intentions apart from action.
  10. Remembering offenses and failures.

One thing that matters more: Connecting

Isolated leaders create status with distance, secrecy, and title.

Isolated leadership is arrogant leadership.

Leadership is influence.

Influence requires connection.

Connected leaders build relationships.

Influence grows when connections grow.

Respect eliminates the need for position and title.

10 ways to connect and succeed:

  1. Make a daily appointment with MBWA. Manage by wandering around. Isolation causes arrogance. Connection requires humility.
  2. View interruptions as opportunities. If your day consists of constant interruptions then use them to connect. Maximize interruptions by quickly getting to, “What’s the next step?”
  3. Solve problems in positive ways. Talk about the reason you’re solving problems, while solving problems.
  4. Explore off-putting behaviors. You do things that block connection and limit potential. Reflect on:
    • The way you talk – tone, content, intent.
    • The way you listen.
    • How you understand and maximize strengths on the team.
  5. Reject savior-leadership. Look to others for answers. Ask, “What do you think?”
  6. Make room for weaknesses. Everyone who has it all together is hiding something. Allow others to have weaknesses by maximizing their talent.
  7. Share information profusely. Secrets prevent connection. Too many secrets suggest inequities.
  8. Send people to others. Ask, “Who might be helpful,” not, “What might be helpful?”
  9. Share stories.
  10. Be transparent with weaknesses without whining or being weak.

3 ways to find time to connect:

The are only three ways to find more time.

  1. Eliminate. Do less of what matters less.
  2. Accelerate. Improve at what matters more, connecting, for example.
  3. Delegate. Get someone else to do stuff.

What prevents leaders from connecting?

What strategies and behaviors help leaders connect?