5 Ways to Deal with Jackholiness
Jackholes are part jackass, part asshole.
No one is quite good enough for a jackhole.
Jackholes can’t tolerate:
- Mistakes. Others make all the mistakes in jackhole land.
- Falling short. Jackholes don’t fall short.
- Weakness. What’s that?
- Progress. Progress is irrelevant. Jackholes have already arrived.
The tragedy of jackholiness is the inability to develop new leaders.
Intolerance disqualifies jackholes from leadership development.
Three things are certain, when no one is quite good enough to be a leader on your team. You’re overestimating your own hotness. Second, you have forgotten where you came from. Last, you’ve lost sight of you’re own jackholiness.
5 ways to deal with jackholiness:
There’s a whiff of jackholiness in all of us. Only a hardened jackhole would think otherwise.
When no one is ever good enough:
#1. Reflect on what you were like when you put your feet under the leadership table for the first time.
If I’m not mistaken, you’re still a bit in the dark.
#2. Remember all the people who helped you. Only the most deluded jackholes think they’re self-made.
#3. Recall your failures, not just lessons learned.
Reject the illusion that you were always this wise.
#4. Live up to your own standards. Jackholes hold others accountable and exempt themselves. Do more than you expect others to do. Do the dirty work.
#5. Learn from people who aren’t good enough. Standing aloof limits your capacity to learn, grow, connect, and serve.
Nothing like learning – from someone who knows less than you – to kick your inner jackhole in the butt.
Bonus: Give trusted allies permission to point out your jackholiness when they see it. (In the moment, not later.) When was the last time you heard something that really stung?
The drift toward jackholiness destroys all who go there.
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