Category Archive: Personal Growth

How to Defeat the Subtleties of Defensiveness

Defensiveness makes you a turtle or a tiger. Sometimes you hide your little turtle head. Other times you bare tiger teeth. Defensiveness is eagerness to feel criticized or attacked; an inclination to see… Continue reading

Roosters, Peacocks, and Leaders Who Smell Like Sweat

Pretending success is easy deceives your team and destroys your highest points of influence. Let people smell the sweat. Pretending success is easy feeds the lie that you can sip margaritas while making… Continue reading

2 Steps to Become Your Aspirational Self And Still Be Your Real Self

Growth is becoming your aspirational self, not languishing with the façade of authenticity. Don’t turn from challenge or opportunity with self-affirming nonsense like, “It’s just not me,” or, “That’s not who I am.”… Continue reading

The One thing I Would Say to Every Coaching Client I Have Ever Had

A friend asked me a question that infected my brain like a splinter. It was a ridiculous question that I thought myself smart enough to answer. So I did. “When you think of… Continue reading

How Leaders Become Real – Lessons from Pinocchio

Pinocchio was a block of wood until Geppetto shaped him into a marionette that eventually become a real boy. Pinocchio was alive but he wasn’t real. Becoming real: #1. Guides. You never become… Continue reading

5 Ways to Lead like the Blue Footed Booby

The first Bishop of Panama, Tomas de Berlanga, discovered the Galapagos Islands in 1535 by accident. He was on his way to Peru, but currents carried the ship to the home of the… Continue reading