4 Ways to Talk Like a Leader

Many of the frustrations and pains you experience are caused by something stupid you said.

Thoughtless words cause more trouble than they’re worth. But skillful leaders exercise verbal control.

4 ways to talk like a leader

You can talk your way into better leadership. Yes, leaders deliver results. But often, the thing that holds leaders back is lack of verbal control.

#1. Only open your mouth to make things better.

Other than eating, the only reason to open your mouth is to make something better.

Seven questions to ask yourself before opening your mouth:

  1. Is it useful?
  2. Is it truthful?
  3. Is it on topic?
  4. Is it forward-facing?
  5. Is it solution oriented?
  6. Is it sincere or manipulative and leading?
  7. Have others contributed to the conversation or are you hogging the floor?

Words are rudders.

Individuals and teams move in the direction of their conversations.

(After composing the above list, I realized that I’m talking too much.)

#2. Be more excited to listen than to speak.

“There is a difference between listening and waiting for your turn to speak.” Simon Sinek

The least utilized tool of leadership is listening. Try asking two questions before making one comment.

#3. Don’t express all your feelings.

Leaders exercise emotional control. Losing your cool, for example, is seldom a wise option. Two year-olds give full vent to their emotions.

Mature leaders act with others in mind. Reserve venting for your counselor or therapist.

#4. Test your knowledge.

You earn respect when you ask questions and test assumptions before giving opinions and making decisions.

It’s challenging to test your assumptions when you’ve already made up your mind.

Once you’ve made up your mind, the conversation is over unless you’re open to change.

“Listening is being able to be changed by the other person.” Alan Alda

What suggestions do you have for talking like a leader?