My Friend Died Last Tuesday

Cy’s wife called Tuesday morning to tell me he passed away between 4 and 5 a.m. My wife and I were enjoying breakfast on the deck. We saw him the week before.

The 11-hour trip to visit Cy didn’t feel good when we were driving, but I’m glad we did it.

Some things feel good after you do them.

Road and tree

The hard things in life feel good after you do them.

Good feelings:

Some things feel good before you do them, anticipating vacation for example.

Some things feel good while you do them, eating ice cream for example.

Some things feel good after you do them, visiting a dying friend for example.

You can feel sad and happy at the same time.

Emotion and hard things:

The hard things in life feel good after you do them.

Bringing up an issue you’ve been putting off doesn’t feel good. But usually it feels good to have the conversation behind you, even if it didn’t go like you hoped.

Sometimes we deal with tough issues because not dealing with them is more painful than dealing with them.

Some things feel good because they’re over.

Asking for forgiveness never feels good until it’s over.

Terminating an employee doesn’t feel good, even if it’s in the best interest of the person.

Preparing for a meeting or presentation doesn’t feel good.

The time it takes to have the oil changed in my truck never feels good. But my truck seems to runs better when I stop procrastinating.


Good feelings are fickle when it comes to the hard things in life.  

The uncomfortable feelings you can’t step into stand between meaning and futility.

Warning: Delay often multiplies disappointment and magnifies pain.

What are some things that usually don’t feel good until they’re over?

How are you navigating fickle emotion?