3 Ways to Lean on People Without Being Needy
There’s a word for the place where people lean on each other, community.
I should have leaned on more people. The lid on potential isn’t lack of talent. It’s reluctance to lean on people.
The person who goes the farthest gets the most help.
3 ways to lean on people:
#1. Know what you don’t do well.
Talent is a beginning. Compensating for the talents you don’t have creates explosive opportunities.
The list of things you don’t do well is miles longer than the talents you have.
#2. Be confident with humility.
The fear of not knowing makes you stupid.
Let others be smart. When someone makes a suggestion, explore how to implement it. Don’t reject it quickly.
#3. Invite others to lean on you.
Bill Withers sang:
“Lean on me
When you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend
I’ll help you carry on…
For it won’t be long
Till I’m gonna need somebody to lean on”
A person with a struggle is an opportunity, not a burden.
Your ‘lean on’ list:
Record the names of all the people you lean on. I hope it’s longer than you expect. Does it fill your heart with gratitude?
A short ‘lean on’ list leads to bitterness. You feel alone and unappreciated in the world.
A long ‘lean on’ list expands your leadership, as long as you’re not needy and looking for sympathy.
The difference between ‘leaning on’ and being needy is passion to grow and stand without help.
If I could go back and change one thing about my journey, I would learn to lean on people. I was eager for people to lean on me and reluctant to lean on people. The word for that is self-limiting arrogance.
How might leaders lean on people?