5 Gratitude Strategies to Energize Your Team Today
Gratitude energizes.
Unspoken appreciation drains vitality.
10 reasons leaders struggle to show gratitude:
#1. Expectations. Great results translate into more to do. There’s no appreciation in some cultures for doing a great job.
#2. Pressure. Crisis-mode eliminates appreciation. You don’t have time to thank others when you’re constantly sinking.
#3. Problems. Leaders tend to focus on problems. You can’t say thanks when all you see are problems.
#4. Greed. You’re ungrateful because you want more. Perhaps if you appreciate what you have you will get more.
#5. Inequity. Why should you thank those who do less than you?
#6. Complaining. Words create focus. Negative talk blinds people to positives.
#7. False humility. When you honor someone, they say, “It was nothing.” Or “I didn’t do much.”
#8. Entitlement. You can never show enough gratitude to people who need affirmations constantly.
#9. Dark history. Negative experiences with a person cause you to doubt their sincerity.
#10. Fear of favoritism. Some don’t express appreciation for fear of causing jealousy in others.
When teams don’t receive gratitude, they tend not to give it.
5 gratitude strategies you can use today:
#1. Ask teammates, “What could I do to show I appreciate you, your results, efforts, and dedication? Take notes.
#2. Begin meetings with short thank-you sessions.
#3. Schedule thank-you-note meetings. The sole purpose of the meeting is to write thank-you notes to teammates and colleagues.
#4. Practice drive-by appreciation. Stop into an office, say a good word and walk away.
#5. Honor character, not just results.
- “Your enthusiasm is encouraging.”
- “I can count on you. Thanks for being reliable.”
- “I respect your dedication, even if results fell short.”
Don’t call a big meeting to complain about lack of gratefulness. Express thankfulness in small ways today.
Would it be dreadful if people said you’re the most thankful leader they know?
Which of the above ideas interest you most?
What could you add to the positive strategies listed above?
Dig deeper:
Gratefulness isn’t about Rose-Colored Glasses – the Real Practice of Gratitude
4 Surprising Times to Express Gratitude
Gratitude Works!: A 21-Day Program for Creating Emotional Prosperity (Emmons)
7 Gratitude Questionnaires and Scales that Scientists Use (Positive Psychology)
The Science of Gratitude (berkeley.edu)





Gratitude Giving helps me feel so much better. I have set it up as a reminder from Microsoft teams to send at least one praise/gratitude note to one employee every day. Thanks for reaffirming that practice Dan. Certainly it makes me feel beautiful.
I’m glad you jumped in today, CV. Reminders to express gratitude is brilliant practice. If we don’t schedule it, we forget it.
I remember the first time I felt the positive impact of expressing gratitude. I was blue, but I decided to send 5 thank you emails. It lifted my spirit. Cheers
Spot on, Dan!
A sincere, heartfelt, thank you is very motivating. Be sure to be specific as to the thank you. (i.e. what is it your thankful for?)
BUT, it has to be sincere otherwise it will have the opposite effect
I love these 5 suggestions of gratitude!! I think I especially liked suggestion number 5: highlight good character. It is so easy to get bottom-lined focused that you forget to praise and award great character choices. Love this.
Thanks,
Travis
I love this! My mom always said “you can never say thank you too much.” I believe in this so much and wish I did it more and more consistently.
Got in trouble once for sending a thank you….we had a colleague who, according to her supervisor, wasn’t meeting expectations. I sent a thank you and was reprimanded for trying to undermine the supervisor. I remarked that it was the first time I had ever been “in trouble” for sending a thank you or for being kind.
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