You can’t control negative thoughts that pop into your head. You can’t stop thinking about problems, past offenses, failures, or disappointments by trying not to think about them. Tell yourself to stop thinking… Continue reading
I heard people say they couldn’t wait for 2020 to be over. Sometimes I felt the same way. But it’s pathetic. 2020 is over. Things that were true last year are still true… Continue reading
You respect yourself less when you break commitments you make to yourself. New Year’s resolutions seduce us into decisions that undermine self-respect. Don’t like doesn’t work: You don’t like your weight. You hate… Continue reading
#1. HOW TO STOP ASKING, “HOW ARE YOU?” AND CREATE REAL CONVERSATION Better questions: What challenges are you facing? Opportunities? What’s working for you? What’s new in your life? What are you looking… Continue reading
6 things I learned (or relearned) in 2020 #1. Contribute: Tom Rath answered my long-nagging concerns about self-indulgent-passion-following by focusing on contributing. The question is how to use your talent to make the… Continue reading
Problems call for response. Stress narrows your focus and makes you stupid. Disappointment invites introspection, blame, or both. Threats call you to fight, fly, or freeze. The way you define something determines your… Continue reading
