Category Archive: Change

7 Ways to Find Your Breakthrough Moment

Breakthroughs are rare when you avoid where they happen. #1. Breakthroughs happen when you accept ignorance. You wouldn’t need a breakthrough if you already knew what to do. Ignorance is the hinge where… Continue reading

How to Gain Power when you Feel Powerless

Many emails I receive concern frustration caused by feeling powerless. Something’s wrong and change seems unlikely. Abuse gives power a bad name, but you need power to get things done. How to gain… Continue reading

Dear Dan: I’m Stuck in Survival Mode

Good morning Dan, I liked your post on the mockingbird and the inner voices from the past. I feel like I live in the past too much and don’t spend enough time looking… Continue reading

Talented People Have an Annoying Side

“I like long walks, especially when they are taken by people who annoy me.” Noel Coward, English Playright Three reasons talent becomes annoying: #1. They’re too much of something. People should be like… Continue reading

How Responding to Compliments Changes People

Overreacting to a compliment is self-absorbed arrogance. Some people gush and say, “Oh it’s nothing,” while explaining at the same time how amazing they are. Then there are the verbose self-deprecating denials at… Continue reading

Why Performance Declines After Praise

Generally speaking, it’s better to praise someone for not smoking than warning them about lung cancer. But we typically default to warnings. When you see a friend smoking, what’s the first thing you… Continue reading