Category Archive: Criticism

I Had a Boss Who Poisoned Relationships

Every word you say to yourself and others matters. Gossiping manager: I had a boss who poisoned relationships. She bad-mouthed support staff. My mirror neurons made it natural to agree. Gossip ignites tension.… Continue reading

With Regards to the Women and Men who Fight On

Ease is evil. Fight on: Trying hard and falling short feels like a punch to the gut. But what’s the alternative. Half-hearted effort? Playing it safe? Ease? Half-hearted effort insults your team and… Continue reading

Portrait of a Squeaky Wheel

Squeaky wheels suck the life out of leaders, teams, and organizations while they claim the high ground for themselves. Squeaky wheels have aspiration for others and exemption for themselves. Portrait of a squeaky… Continue reading

Dear Dan: An Employee Yelled at Me

Dear Dan, I read your blog everyday and need some advice! I believe I am leading a narcissist. She lost it today and called me a name when I provided feedback on a… Continue reading

The Choice That Makes You a Leader

Obsession with others is avoidance. I have many conversations with leaders. Sometimes those conversations begin by talking about disappointment in teammates or higher ups. It’s necessary to talk through frustrations. But conversations can’t… Continue reading

The #1 Cure for Fault-Finding Leaders

Fault-finders reject people. Acceptance is the #1 cure for fault-finders. Don’t expect great performance from people who feel rejected by you. Successful leaders accept people. Critics believe there’s something wrong with others.  The… Continue reading