If half-truths are lies, being nice makes us liars. The need to be nice is about: Preventing offense. Keeping the peace. Protecting status. Being liked. Being too nice often includes shading the truth. Too nice:… Continue reading
New behaviors feel like showing up for dinner dressed like Micky Mouse. Frustration and disappointment are more comfortable than the discomfort of feeling inauthentic when you try on new leadership behaviors. People say, “Be yourself.” But how can… Continue reading
One negative feedback session – done well – has more positive impact than a hundred pats on the back. 7 questions to ease the pain of giving negative feedback: #1. Do you need… Continue reading
The tipping point between prolonged disappointment and renewed vitality is a difficult conversation. Many leadership frustrations are the result of conversations that didn’t happen. The choice to avoid difficult conversations often masquerades as kindness.… Continue reading
Dear Dan, I have a team member who aspires to a lofty leadership position. However, the position requires skills and attributes the individual has failed to demonstrate. I want to keep him positively… Continue reading
All of us are blind in part. Some are blind to their strengths; others to their weaknesses. You grow when you see yourself more clearly. Feedback wipes the steam from the mirror. Giving feedback is saying… Continue reading
