Category Archive: Gratitude

Praise, Ability, and Sucking the Life out of People

Praise is informed by the maturity and ability of those being praised. Shoe tying: Imagine little Mary successfully tying her shoe for the first time. Filled with pride, she parades her shoe tying… Continue reading →

The CEO of PayPal on Giving Credit

“This idea of the power of giving credit to others — as opposed to your own individual accomplishment — has shaped my entire career. Most people don’t really think about that. They mostly… Continue reading →

Exclude the “But”

Ask some leaders to describe the last time they said, “Thank you,” and you’ll hear crickets or excuses. “They know I appreciate their work.” “I don’t want people to feel they’ve arrived.” “I… Continue reading →

Dear Dan: Can You Say More About the Ungrateful List

Dear Dan, Can you say more about the “I’m ungrateful list” – what might be on it and how to use it? I want to know more! Irene (I used the term “Ungrateful… Continue reading →

How to Find Your Grateful Mind

3 dangers of ingratitude: #1. Missed opportunity. Ungratefulness doesn’t create a bright future. Ingratitude worries about the past. A leader that’s focused on the past misses today’s opportunity. Turn to the future: What… Continue reading →

How to Practice Ethical Buttering Up

Butter is the reason we eat popcorn. Broccoli is intolerable without butter. In our house we put butter on peanut butter sandwiches.  Everything’s better with butter. (Except watermelon.) Buttering up: Buttering up is… Continue reading →