The 4 to 1 Rule Will Change Your Life

July 2, 2011 I decided to adopt the 4 to 1 rule. I challenge you to do the same. Every negative comment requires four positive comments. I know what some of you are… Continue reading

How to Focus on the Future while Evaluating the Past

Image source Stop saying “should have,” after projects are completed. Start saying “next time.” The former is backward-facing and the latter is forward-facing. Should have’s correct the past; something impossible to do. When… Continue reading

How to Overcome People Pleasing

(Originally posted October 10, 2010) Wanting another’s approval is healthy. Needing it is sick. You can’t please all the people even some of the time. “The disease to please,” as psychologist Harriet Braiker… Continue reading

The Top 25 Ways to Win Arguments

Don’t focus on winning or losing; focus on achieving objectives. Interrupting to make your point is pointless. Be smart not right. You aren’t finding the right answer; you’re searching for the better alternative.… Continue reading

You’re more prepared than you think

Image source Changing the outside world begins with changes inside you. We change before we change others. Sometimes we change from the outside-in. Once, when I was a young man, I was fired.… Continue reading

The Question that Changes You

Failures and questions: Failure humbles you by demonstrating your lack of knowledge and ability. Failures, additionally, burst the bubble of perceived control. Failure breaks up old ways of thinking and doing. Failures are… Continue reading