Momma said, “Don’t interrupt.” Let people finish. Pause. Make space.
Master the habit of letting people finish before you speak.
And then break the rules. Great conversations break the rules.
Some of the rules the experts suggest get in the way of great conversations.
Leading feelings begins with setting intentions. How will people feel after their one-on-one with you? Focus on two areas. How will they feel about themselves and their work?
You can’t make people feel something.
Leading feelings require influence, not coercion.
Most people aren’t as interesting as they think.
There are three reasons leaders are boring communicators. They are infatuated with their own ideas. They are explaining how to do someone’s job. Or they are trying to prove their competence. In the most toxic cases, all three are true.
You don’t have to be charismatic, just less dull.
I learned a powerful model I’m sharing today.
Learn to notice the trajectory of conversations.
More important, learn to open a door toward the intentional future.
Words are rudders. Skillful leaders understand the trajectory of conversations.
I bet you had a conversation that changed the trajectory of your life.
How can you lead life changing conversations. It’s not always predictable, but some skills make it more likely.
How to lead one-on-ones that change lives…
Don’t have one-on-ones if you don’t have time to prepare. You can prepare in minutes.
Is the person you’re talking with worth three minutes of preparation?
Here are three ways to jumpstart one-on-ones.
What do you think?
