Critics and coaches
Critics tell you what you did wrong. Coaches point out the wrong and tell you how to be better.
It’s easy for leaders to become “critical critics” because their nature is seeing problems that need solutions.
Rather than focusing on problems, great leaders speak to potential and create new strengths in others.
Criticism is easy because it’s about the past. But the past can’t be changed. Coaching is hard because it’s about an unseen, unreached future. In other words, criticism is about what was. Coaching is about what could be.
“Being forward-looking most differentiates leaders.”
Barry Posner
Great leaders face-forward by focusing on values, strategies, and clearly defined objectives.
For example, critical parents focus on behaviors. Coaching parents focus on objectives. Additionally, critical bosses focus on missed deadlines. Coaching bosses focus on time-management skills.
Dan,
I agree 100% with this posting. I believe this, because I have and continue to experience this with my guardian (angel) starting from my teenage years.
There is an untouched wisdom that leaders have, which they cannot explain to you, but know that, “it just is”. As the recipient of this powerful information you are shocked by their insight and hope for you as an individual, but trust their judgment (the process), listen attentively, and work towards that objective. They have an indescribable confidence and vision for your life potential.