How to Let Yourself Be Angry

Dreamers feel frustration.

Let yourself be angry. Suppressing anger wastes energy.

I know people who have been frustrated for years. The reason you’re circling the same frustration is you aren’t angry enough.

deal with it

Leaders who don’t feel frustration are too happy with the present.

Anger isn’t the issue; how you express it is.

7 negative expressions of anger:

  1. Outbursts.
  2. Abuse.
  3. Temper tantrums.
  4. Sulking.
  5. Disrespect.
  6. Blaming others.
  7. Attacking yourself.

Anger says:

  1. Speak up.
  2. Take action.
  3. Stop it.
  4. Seek options.
  5. Change something.
  6. Make it better.
  7. Take responsibility.

Energy spent suppressing anger drains energy.

The most important thing:

The most important thing about anger is timely action. Deal with anger before it consumes you.  The worst thing you can do with anger is let it simmer.


When you simmer in anger, you treat others with their faults and offenses in mind.

Living with anger is letting offenses drive life. Deal with it. Don’t live with it. Anger told you about unhappiness, when you don’t listen, you remain unhappy.

5 questions to get the most from anger:

  1. What wrong do I want to right?
  2. What am I willing to do to make things better?
  3. What am I missing?
  4. What do I want for us?
  5. What can I do today to move toward better?

Bonus: What behaviors will make me proud tomorrow?

Anger is one of the most powerful human emotions. Suppressing or ignoring it is dangerous. Learn to leverage anger’s power by focusing it on positive behaviors.

What’s dangerous about anger?

How can leaders leverage anger’s energy?