The 5 Enemies of Gratitude that Blow Up Your Leadership

Talented leaders rise on the wings of gratitude.


The person who needs the spotlight only rises to the level of the praise they receive.

The 5 enemies of gratitude:

#1. Bob Betterthan.

Bob is an expert faultfinder. He’s ungrateful because no one quite measures up.

#2. Sam Serveme.

Sam won’t say it but he believes people exist to serve him. He may seem humble, kind, and polite but arrogance beats in his heart.

Sam eventually grabs his toys and runs home because everyone disappoints.

Tip: You always have a place when you show up to serve. (Note: We serve each other. Let people serve you, too.)

#3. Nelly Knowsmore.

Nelly knows how everyone should do their job, even though she doesn’t actually do their job.

I keep my mouth shut when my wife is cooking. For some reason I know how she should cook, even though my expertise in cooking ends with burgers on the grill. (I learned this lesson the hard way.)

Tip: Be grateful for the knowledge of others, even if you think you know more.

#4. Tammy Tellsmore.

Tammy loves to tell people what to do, but they never do quite enough.

Tammy’s ungrateful because, like Bob Betterthan, she feigns superiority.

#5. Harry Hogsthespotlightmore.

Harry believes the applause others receive is undeserved and the applause he receives is inadequate.

Praise is a limiter for those who can’t live without it.

The person who needs the spotlight only rises to the level of the praise they receive.

The first time someone on your team receives praise for something you taught them – but you remain unacknowledged – is one of the great tests of leadership.

Enabling and empowering gets to the point that others outshine you in some area. That’s when you step in the shadows.

You look pathetic when you bring up your contribution to someone else’s success.

Tip: Servant leaders cheer the progress and success of others.

Solution: Practice gratitude, even if you don’t feel grateful.

What enemies of gratitude do you notice?

Bonus material:

This four-letter Word is the Enemy of Gratitude (PT)

6 Habits that Destroy Gratitude (Ruth Oneil)